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Work on yourself first

Work on yourself first: what that advice actually costs you

Blair Rowe · 8 min read · Updated October 2026

It is said kindly, at a table with wine on it. It takes an ordinary want and files it as a symptom, and a symptom has only one next step: more repair.

What have you been working on before you're allowed to want him?

A few questions about your own week. Your standards stay yours.

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